Things What You Say That Your Japanese Girlfriend Won’t Believe

Being in a relationship with someone means setting boundaries, and having rules can help couples establish mutual trust. At times, though, you might end up lying for the sake of convenience or exaggerate the truth to show that you are innocent. In most cases, however, Japanese girls know not to fall for such words and actions. This time, we introduce “things you say that your girlfriend won’t believe.”

1. “Trust me, and you’ll be fine.”

You might say something like this when your girlfriend comes to you and tells you she’s nervous about the future. Whether she believes your words will depend on your everyday actions. It’s better not to say this if you don’t usually act in ways that are trustworthy.

2. “I don’t really feel like going, but I can’t say no to my boss’s invitation.”

When you frequently go out for drinks with your colleagues rather than have dinner with your girlfriend, she will find it hard to believe that others are always to blame. Worse yet, if you are going out clubbing instead of just going out for drinks, there is no way your girlfriend will believe you.

3. “I can do anything when I try.”

It’s not a great idea to say this when you are late for your date or when someone criticizes your work. Hearing that you need to put in some extra effort to do anything properly will convince your girlfriend that you won’t always be motivated enough to get things done, even when you need to.

4. “I’m not really attracted to other girls.”

If you say something like this after you spend a great time with your girlfriend’s female friends, she will wonder why you are you interested in her. Unless you have a ready answer to her question, she won’t believe you and may suspect that you would fall for anyone.

5. When you say “I am nothing without you” when your girlfriend asks, “What’s more important—me or your work?”

Your girlfriend might ask you this question when she’s feeling lonely. If you want to soothe her anxiety, be sincere and specific with your words. A vague response, such as “I am nothing without you,” won’t be enough to satisfy her.

6. When you say “It’s not right to have to show each other what we have on our phone,” if your girlfriend suddenly says, “Show me your phone.”

If you have nothing to hide, you shouldn’t have a problem with this. You can actually relieve your girlfriend of her concerns by showing her your phone. On the contrary, saying no to her request will hint that you are hiding something from her.

7. When you say “Personally, I don’t know, but according to my friend they just give in to temptation,” when your girlfriend asks, “Why do guys cheat?”

When your girlfriend asks an awkward question, offering your friend’s theory (“According to my friend…”) will not make you sound very trustworthy. She will know that you are actually stating your own opinion, but under someone else’s name. Even if you really did get the information from your friend, be careful how you reply, because your girlfriend might be suspicious.