Top Boyfriend Flaws Japanese Girls Are Fed Up With But Are Afraid to Tell Them About

You might think that you and your Japanese girlfriend make a great couple, but your girlfriend could secretly be fed up with some of your shortcomings and never tell you about them because she’s afraid. This time, we asked women to share those flaws their boyfriends have that they are fed up with but are afraid to tell them.

1. He splits the bill, not only on regular dates, but also at Christmas and birthday celebrations.

“Whatever the circumstance, he’s just stingy.” While splitting the bill on regular dates may not be perceived negatively, women want their boyfriend to pay the bill on special occasions, such as her birthday. Don’t make an excuse that you don’t have money. You can always make an effort to save in preparation for a special occasion.

2. He’s always on his phone, even when he’s with his girlfriend.

“What’s the point of hanging out together?” It makes your date uncomfortable when you’re more focused on your cell phone than on her. Be discreet when using your phone: check it before and after your date or when she goes to the restroom.

3. He doesn’t brush his teeth and his breath stinks.

“As you would think, it’s not easy to tell your boyfriend that his breath stinks.” Quite a few women told us their boyfriend’s bad breath is a problem. Some people are unaware of their bad breath, so don’t consider yourself an exception. Maintain your oral hygiene by brushing your teeth three times a day and seeing your dentist regularly.

4. He’s proud of his cheesy jokes and keeps repeating them, even though they turn his girlfriend off.

“Soon enough, I won’t be able to even put on a fake smile.” Women often struggle when they can’t tell their boyfriend that his jokes are awful, because he’s proud of them. Try telling the same jokes to other people and refine your repertoire by getting rid of ones that don’t make them laugh.

5. He snores and grinds his teeth so loudly that his girlfriend can’t sleep with him.

“Because of his snoring, I feel sleep deprived after we spend the night together.” Women find it difficult to tell their boyfriend that he’s snoring too loudly, no matter how stressed they feel, because they know it’s not intentional. Even if your girlfriend hasn’t said anything to you, it might be worth checking in with her by asking, “Was I snoring?”

6. He can’t decide anything on his own and always asks, “What should we do?”

“He needs to make his own decision sometimes.” Women find it irritating when their boyfriend leaves things up to other people. It’s important to ask women for their opinion, but keep in mind that they also appreciate guys who can take charge. It’s important that you clearly state what you want to do.

7. He blatantly wipes his face and body with a hot towel in restaurants.

“I wonder if he has no shame.” Hot towels, often given out in Japanese restaurants, are meant for cleaning one’s hands. Women say that they’re turned off when guys use a hot towel to wipe off sweat like a middle-aged man. Keep a handkerchief with you if you sweat a lot, and use this instead so you don’t embarrass your date.

8. He pushes his world view and values on his girlfriend and says things like, “Women should walk a step behind men.”

“He thinks his opinions are the most correct, so he doesn’t listen to me.” Women don’t appreciate a boyfriend who pushes his values on them. It’s great to have a strong sense of individuality, however, it’s also important to leave space in your mind for ideas and values that are different from yours.

9. He’s a wild driver and scares his girlfriend every time they’re in the car.

“I’ve disliked driving with my current boyfriend ever since I started dating him.” Many women said they can’t stand the way their boyfriend drives. Also be careful about swearing while driving—this makes women question your decency as a person.