When to Ask a Japanese Girlfriend What Her Favorite Making love Position Is

When it comes to making love positions, people have all different preferences. But it might be too abrupt to ask a Japanese girlfriend what her favorite position is out of the blue: she might pull away in embarrassment or feel pressured by you. To save you trouble, we surveyed our Japanese female readers to bring you 9 ways to ask a Japanese girlfriend what her favorite making love position is.

1. During making love

“Since we’re both naked, I have nothing else to be embarrassed about.” Some things are a bit awkward to ask, but if you’re already in the bedroom, you can sometimes get away with it. Once she answers, you could try that position right away, or if you’re feeling playful you could tease her by saving it for later, heightening her anticipation and making things more exciting.

2. When drinking

“Alcohol always helps to lower inhibition, so I feel more comfortable talking about these things.” Some women feel more comfortable talking about sexual topics when they’re a bit buzzed. However, women may feel uncomfortable talking about these things in public, so make sure you have a private seat in the bar or ask her when you’re drinking alone at her place or yours.

3. When reading magazines

“It’s like killing two birds with one stone.” You can learn about new making love positions and ask her what she thinks about them at the same time. She might not feel comfortable if the magazine is hard porn, but if it’s a Japanese girlfriend’s health magazine or takes a softer approach to erotica, by all means, try going through the magazine with her.

4. Right after making love

“I can open up to him and say which position was good, so it’s nice.” If it’s right after making love you can also give each other feedback so you can both improve your experience next time. You can ask her about your overall technique as well, not just making love positions.

5. When hanging out with her and her girlfriends

“It’s fine if he’s the only guy in the group.” Japanese girls seem to be more comfortable talking about these topics when there are more women around. However, be careful: if her friends don’t know you that well, this may turn them off to you. It’s best to bring it up only if you know her friends well and they’re comfortable with you.

6. On the phone

“It’s good because he can’t see my face.” Some Japanese girls feel more comfortable opening up about making love when they can’t see the other person. Of course, if you ask her abruptly about her favorite making love position it will still be awkward, so gradually bring up making love in the conversation and only ask her when the timing feels right.

7. When taking a bath together

“If he asks me while we’re both relaxed in the bath I think I’ll feel comfortable enough.” On the other hand, if she seems really relaxed and doesn’t look like she’s in the mood for making love or talk about making love, then it might be best not to bring it up—wait until she’s more turned on.

8. While watching porn together

“It’s easier to bring up making love positions since there’s usually different kinds in porn.” Porn can help introduce lots of new ideas for making love, including particular sexual positions. Some porn is geared toward women, so this may be the best type to watch together.

9. In text

“It’s nice because we can communicate at our own pace while texting.” Women said they don’t feel the pressure to respond right away, so it’s easier to respond or avoid awkward subjects if they want to. Add emojis to your text to lighten up the mood so the chat doesn’t seem too serious.