The Most Common Situations when Japanese Women do not Want to be Alone

Even those less flirtatious women who are seemingly impossible to approach have moments of weakness that make it easier for a guy to ask her out. Today, we share the critical moments when you are more likely to capture their hearts, based on a survey we conducted with more than 400 young Japanese women in their late teens and 20s.

1. When her best friend broke the news that she was getting married.

“It crossed my mind that I may never get married. Suddenly, I felt depressed,” admitted one Japanese woman in her 20s. She wants to be happy for her best friend, but at the same time she’s feeling completely frustrated with her own love life. “I’m the only one left from our class who isn’t married.” If you catch her expressing such disappointment, give her a call and ask her out for a quick drink. Something may develop.

2. When a guy flirts and teases her like a teenage girl.

A Japanese woman in her 20s recalled this kind of experience, “It’s been a while since I last felt this way. It’s nice to be pursued.” The older the woman is, the more flattered she feels being the target of your flirtation. Even if you think she may be too mature to be gently teased, you’ll never know unless you try. Give it a go and see how she reacts.

3. When she had a bad day at work.

“When things don’t go well at work, I just want to have a good time and forget about it,” stated one Japanese woman in her 20s. Some women want to vent their frustration to their male colleagues and take their mind off of work for rest of the day. If she moans about work, it’s a great opportunity to get closer to her. Listen intently and give her an outlet to vent.

4. When she receives words of compassion: “I’m here for you.”

“Reliability and trust may be the prologue to a romantic relationship,” observed one Japanese woman in her late teens. If you offer her comfort and understanding, the relationship could possibly develop into something more than just friendship. However, don’t expect your relationship to develop after just one caring word. You need to build her trust by working diligently on a daily basis to show her that you care.

5. When she has a great time at a social.

A Japanese woman in her 20s told us, “It’s always easier for me to hit it off with a guy over a couple of drinks.” It’s not uncommon for women to lose their inhibitions over a bottle of wine. It’s a great opportunity to get to know each other, and for you to make a move. Still, you don’t want alcohol to cloud your judgment, so be cautious in evaluating the situation before making any important decisions.

6. When she feels beautiful after visiting a salon or a day spa.

One Japanese woman in her 20s admits, “When I feel beautiful, I feel confident in myself, and it shows.” When a woman feels confident about her outer beauty, it will often motivate her to be bold and outgoing with her relationships. If you notice a change in her appearance, promptly compliment her. A simple “The new hairdo really suits you” could open up endless possibilities.

7. When she is worried about natural disasters.

Unfortunately, Japan experiences hurricanes and earthquakes each year. Although these are unavoidable natural disasters, they make many women nervous and afraid to be alone. One Japanese woman in her late teens voiced her concerns, “I don’t want to be alone when I’m anxious about severe weather.” Having a man around gives her comfort and a sense of security. If you know she lives alone, check up on her to see if she’s okay when a natural disaster strikes.

8. When she is moved by a love story.

“It made me want to be in love again. It gave me the courage to go out there and find love,” shared a Japanese woman in her 20s. Women often insert themselves into the love stories they are reading or viewing and then want to find their own real-world love story. It sounds cliché and overused, but if you have been wanting to go out with her, ask her out to watch a chick flick that has a happy ending.

9. When she is hormonal and experiencing PMS.

A Japanese woman in her 20s confessed, “During PMS, I crave the company of a boyfriend.” We all have animal instincts that are driven by changes in hormones. An unexplainable urge to be with a man can suddenly overwhelm her during this time of month. The only drawback is that it’s difficult for a man to know exactly when that time is. You need to be alert to any hints she drops or signs she shares.